Last First Day of School

Hey everyone! I hope your weekend has gone well and you’re enjoying this last month of summer. I’m holding on to every second of it.

I haven’t updated my blog in a while, and for that I apologize. I’ve been swamped with working, practice, and all of life’s other responsibilities.

Inspiration has also evaded me. It can be challenging to come up with a topic to write about, and it was hard to share outfits when my summer wardrobe consisted mainly of workout clothes or work clothes. Super cute right? Not really.  I was sure that no one cared to see me in that attire.

With school fast approaching, I’ve managed to kind of get my life together-mostly because I have to. Hopefully, I’ll get back on track with posting blogs too because I really missed it.

My senior year of high school starts on Tuesday and I couldn’t be more excited. Not for the school part, but the last year part. It’s also kind of bittersweet because time has gone by so fast, and I’ll have to grow up pretty soon. I always tell my friends and family that I don’t necessarily want to be an adult, but I definitely want to be out of high school. Maybe I’ll find a way to maintain that balance.

The first day of school was always exciting for me growing up. There was something about meeting new teachers and seeing who was in your classes that made me eager to start. I’m going to get superficial here, but the first day is also the day to make first impressions after a long summer of not seeing anyone. Everyone always seems to dress their best those first couple weeks of school. Tuesday will be my last “first day of school” in the traditional sense. It will be my last time participating in the annual dress to impress day.

To celebrate, I thought I’d share a possible first day of school outfit that I threw together.

First, I had to get out the backpack.

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I wanted to go with a simple approach, so I put on some jeans and a white blouse.

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To stay in the spirit of summer, I added a pop of color to my outfit with my purple tie-dye adidas.

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It’s been a while since I’ve held my backpack, and let’s just say I didn’t necessarily miss carrying it everyday.

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My outfit was pretty simple, but that’s how I like it. Some of the boldest statements are made when you say nothing at all; the same can be said about fashion.

I’m still not sure what I’ll wear on Tuesday, but whatever it is, I’ll wear because I want to wear it. My advice to everyone starting school soon is to be yourself. High school doesn’t last forever, so don’t waste your time trying to impress people you are around for a small portion of your life at the expense of your own happiness. Make yourself happy because you have to live with yourself for the rest of your life.

Good luck to everyone starting school soon! I wish you all the best for this new year, and hope that you enjoy these last days of summer!

Couturely Sound ❤

 

Real Talk:Your Accomplishments Won’t Make You Happy Forever

When I started my blog over a a year ago, I wanted it to be focused on topics exclusively related to fashion or pop culture. However, as of late, I’ve decided that my blog should be a platform for me to discuss anything and that I shouldn’t limit myself. Besides, I have too many things weighing on my mind all of the time, and to not discuss them or potentially help someone else by sharing them would be a travesty.

With all of that being said, I want to introduce a new series on my blog called “Real Talk.” “Real Talk” will essentially be a series of blog posts where I delve into or observe anything I’ve recently discovered about life or society. Don’t worry though; Couturely Sound is still a fashion and pop culture blog, and I hope to keep it that way, but every now and then, anticipate a post in which I share some of the issues that fail to evade my mind.

Today’s “Real Talk” is all about accomplishments and how they relate to our happiness. I think our society puts so much emphasis on accomplishments, whether it be monetarily, academically, or athletically. We always feel as if our lives could be better, so we set goals, and we work towards these goals so that we can get to wherever it is we want to be. I’m all for setting goals, and I look at my personal accomplishments with great pride-I think everyone should- but I’m here to tell you that your accomplishments will not keep you happy forever even if they are excellent.

I don’t participate in gymnastics, and I never have, but I’ve always been a fan of the sport. What gymnasts can do with their bodies absolutely astounds me, and whenever the Olympics comes on, gymnastics is always my favorite sport to watch. One of my favorite gymnasts to compete is Shawn Johnson.  Shawn Johnson competed at the 2008 Olympics in Beijing, where she took home 4 medals including a gold medal on the balance beam. After her Olympic run, she also went on to win Dancing With the Stars, becoming the youngest competitor to ever do so.

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Anyway, last summer I saw a video she was in that was produced by I Am Second, a Christian organization that’s main focus is about living second and being selfless.

The video is linked above, but I realize some people may not have time to watch it, so I’ll provide a brief summary. Shawn Johnson was the “it” girl in gymnastics leading up to the 2008 Olympics. Up until that point, she had won virtually every competition, so the media predicted that she would get all gold medals at the games, including the coveted gold medal in the all-around competition. Johnson, age 16 at that point, had worked her entire life for the all-around gold medal, but she came up a little short. Her teammate and friend Nastia Liukin had been neck in neck with her in competitions for the entire year, but on the day of the all-around, Liukin won the gold medal, while Johnson took silver. Johnson went on to take silver in the team and floor competitions before finally earning a well deserved gold medal with a beautiful performance on beam. Despite, all that she had accomplished, Johnson still felt like a failure-she didn’t take the gold medal in the all around and didn’t live up to everyone’s expectations. Even after winning the gold medal on beam, she still felt unhappy, like none of it really mattered in the first place.

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Johnson wanted redemption. After tearing her ACL in a ski accident in 2010, she decided to make a comeback for London 2012. The only difference was that she was not 16 anymore. She became obsessed with training, people were commenting on her body, and she was pressured by multiple endorsements. She hit rock bottom, until she was in the gym one day and God gave her the courage to leave the sport she had done for her entire life. The lessons she had learned was that no amount of gold medals will make you happy-after all she had won gold in Beijing and it was nice at first,  but she still felt like a failure in the years to come. She also learned that true happiness is found in God and family, and no accomplishment is worth sacrificing your well being over.

I was really inspired by this clip, but at the time, I don’t think I related to it as much as I do now. I am a go getter, so I set a lot of goals for myself. For a long time, I was convinced that if I reached all of  my goals I would be happy, but this really isn’t the case. I had a lot of moments like that this past year. I would reach a goal, feel great about it for a day or so, and then go back to feeling kind of empty again, as if I was somehow still under performing in life or missing something. I had a lot of “what now?” moments . Accomplishments are a temporary high that we can look back on, but never fully experience again.

Whenever someone of great influence with a bunch of accomplishments goes off the rails, or in extreme cases, takes their life, we are often confused. We think “how could someone who has everything be so sad or troubled?” The answer is that whatever they achieved isn’t keeping them happy anymore, and maybe it never did. I mean look at Michael Phelps. He became the most decorated Olympian in 2012, but spiraled into alcoholism before making his run for the 2016 Olympics in Rio, where he also dominated. To me, he seems to be in a much better place now, having found an identity outside of all the swimming and medals with his growing family.

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Tom Brady, even after winning 5 Super Bowls, still isn’t finished playing football as he approaches his 40th birthday. Many might wonder what drives him. Is it his winning spirit? The chip on his shoulder? His love for the game? I think it could be all of those things, but another part of me thinks he’s chasing that temporary high. After all, the feeling of winning a Super Bowl fades after so many years. He gave an interview with 60 Minutes after the Patriots had won their third championship in three years. In the interview, Brady said, “Why do I have three Super Bowl rings and still think there is something greater out there for me?” Having reached the pinnacle of athletic achievement he still thought, “There’s got to be more than this.”

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Basketball GOAT, Michael Jordan, has echoed similar sentiment. Part of the reason he kept retiring and then coming back to basketball was because of his need to compete and win. When he really couldn’t play anymore, he did what he could to still get that competitive high, like golfing or opening up a camp where he charged middle aged men a pretty penny to get schooled by him. He has stated before that he has yet to find something that makes him tick like basketball did, and he is still looking. Jordan has won 6 rings, he’s a billionaire, he’s a widely respected athlete, and yet he still feels a void.

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Here’s what I’ve learned:The only things that will truly fulfill you are the memories you create, your family, friends, and God.

Sure, you can get straight A’s in school and ace all of your exams, but is that temporary high worth loosing sleep over or friendships? Memories?

You might work your way up in a job and become a CEO, but is that prestigious position worth missing your kids’ soccer games over? Or your marriage?

My point is-don’t sacrifice your health, well being, experiences, or relationships for that temporary high because unlike the aforementioned things, it will not keep you happy forever. Set goals for yourself and reach for the stars, but always remember that whatever you achieve is not the end all be all, and it is definitely not what defines you or your purpose in life.

Stay golden my friends,

Couturely Sound ❤

New Music Roundup 7/8/17

 

Happy Saturday! This week was pretty long and stressful. I’m so happy I conquered this week and all of its challenges. Maybe your week had challenges as well, so let’s celebrate the weekend with some music!

Here are 7 new tracks that I’m currently enjoying:

1. Lorde-“Perfect Places”

I recently reviewed Lorde’s new album Melodrama, and “Perfect Places” was one of the standouts. Its explosive chorus and honest lyrics have been playing in my head on repeat.

2. Paramore-Drake “Passionfruit” Cover

 

This cover manages to incorporate two things I love: Paramore and Drake’s song “Passionfruit,”which made my round up a couple of months ago. Whenever artist make the rounds and go to the bbc live lounge, I always get pretty excited because they always perform a cover. I would have never expected Paramore to cover a Drake song, but then again their sound has evolved quite a bit. I was so pleased by this unlikely cover.

3. Bryson Tiller- “Sorry Not Sorry”

Sometimes I love really biting lyrics that cut deep and aren’t even remotely nice. I think songs that have these types of lyrics are really honest. Such is the case with Tiller’s “Sorry Not Sorry.” The greatness doesn’t stop with his words though-the beat is also pretty sick. I know this song is a year old, but it’s new to me, so that’s why it’s on this list.

4. Childish Gambino-“Redbone”

I remember hearing “3005” a couple years ago, and it was a song that I enjoyed listening to. When I first heard “Redbone,” I never would have thought that the artist performing it was the same man behind “3005”-Childish Gambino. “Redbone” is a smooth jam, with raspy vocals and a throwback feel. I love jamming out to this track on car rides or when I’m just chilling.

5. Lorde-“Supercut”

Another track from Lorde’s Melodrama has made this list. “Supercut” is such a bop. The production is so full and polished. Lorde’s vocals are emotive, and the lyrics are-you guessed it-honest. I think Lorde is great for pop music. “Supercut” has all the makings of a great pop song, but it is so much smarter than most pop we hear today. It somehow manages to make you want to dance but also cry. Keep doing what you’re doing Lorde.

6. Coldplay- ” A L I E N S”

It’s funny because Coldplay are my favorite band, and probably artist, but they have never made my new music roundup up until this point. This is probably because they haven’t released new music since I started this series. “Aliens” is a brilliant track, not only sonically, but thematically. The music is urgent, spacy electronic sounds are weaved throughout, and Coldplay even get a little experimental with the phrasing and vocal delivery. One of the reasons I love Coldplay so much is because they are so worldy. “Aliens” outlines the story of aliens fleeing their home planet and then wanting to return home. It seems pretty simple but it’s actually a metaphor for the ongoing refugee crisis-like the aliens Coldplay describes, refugees have been forced out of their mother countries. Not only is aliens socially conscious, but it’s also pleasing to the ear. Brian Eno co-wrote and co-produced the track. He was one of the architects behind Coldplay’s acclaimed album Viva La Vida.  I hope he works with Coldplay more in the future. This song is evidence that Eno and Coldplay truly bring out the best in each other.

7. Paramore-“Forgiveness”

The last track on this round up is “Forgiveness” by Paramore. “Forgiveness” is featured on their new album After Laughter. I was initially lukewarm to this track, but I’ve been listening to After Laughter a lot lately, and it has really grown on me. The track is a heartbreaker-but it’s honest( if you couldn’t tell already, I like my music honest). Due to the new developments going on within the band, the song also has so much more context than it had before. Hayley Williams’s vocals shine, the guitars are sensitive, and the backing vocals add a fullness and vulnerability that I didn’t detect until now. It also gives off major 80s vibes, which is always a good thing. This song has been, and probably will remain,on repeat for a long time.

 

That’s it for this round up! Have a good weekend!

Couturely Sound ❤️

Red, White, and Blue

This summer is flying by. I can’t believe it’s already July! Before I know it, I’ll be back in school.

One of my main goals this summer was to stay productive. So far, I think I’ve managed to do so. I just got a new job, and for the past couple of days I’ve been training. To all of you out there who think retail is easy, it’s not. My job will be a new challenge for me, but I’m so happy that it’s keeping me busy!

Due to the 4th of July promotion going on at the store, we were told that we could wear any red, white, and blue combination for the next few days ( if only the dress code were always that loose).

I could’ve just worn a basic red shirt with some jeans, but I wanted to play with my outfit a bit more. What I wore today wasn’t too complex, but I felt that it was still cute, functional, and festive.

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I wore a white( well, it’s more cream)camisole blouse with a bright red work shirt. I really like the cami because it has a corset in the back (which I’ll show another time) and it’s very frilly and girly.

The weather outside was warm, but I knew I was bound to get cold being indoors for a large fraction of the day, so that’s why I opted for a quarter sleeve layer.

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We were allowed to wear jeans today, so I definitely capitalized off of that! My light denim jeggings from American Eagle are so comfortable, and they are becoming such a staple for me. I can wear them in so many different ways. For today, they were the blue that went with my red and white.

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My dad got me on Sperrys about five years ago, and since then I haven’t been able to quit them. I got this pair a few months ago, and they are really comfortable-perfect for standing on your feet all day. They’re also pretty cute too. I like the contrast they create with the rest of my outfit.

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I don’t dabble in makeup much, but when I do, I keep it light like I did today.

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I also kept my accessories minimal, opting for my red studs and pearl earrings with my simple silver necklace. On the rings, the words “faith” and “joy” are engraved-they acted as simple reminders to get me through the day. I threw my hair into a ponytail to get it out of the way, and my look was complete! I felt festive, stylish, and ready for work!

I’m so excited for all of the opportunities and experiences that will come my way in the next year. I can’t wait to share them!

Happy 4th!

Couturely Sound ❤

 

Lorde-“Melodrama” Album Review

So many artists dream of having a number one song on the Billboard Hot 100. To reach this achievement, an artist might make sure their song has the best hook, catchiest melodies, and coolest video. All of these components sound like the makings of a great hit right? Wrong, just ask Lorde.

 

Back in 2013, New Zealand native Lorde burst on to the scene with her smash hit “Royals” at the tender age of sixteen. The single quickly rose to number one and stayed there for quite some time. The success of “Royals” is interesting. While it had a catchy hook, it featured, at that point, a relatively unknown artist and, it did not have a glamorous video. What I find the most funny about “Royals” is that it rose to the number one spot on Billboard by, for lack of a better word, roasting numbers 2-100. “Royals” is an extremely clever song, and I’m not sure a lot of top 40 listeners ever realized this, myself included( until I did my research). The song is critical of excess and celebrity culture, so while it sounded great to the ear, it also had deeper meaning.

I was never a big fan of “Royals” when it first came out. I found it annoying, and I thought Lorde was kind of strange and stuck up.  I think at this point I misunderstood her. It wasn’t until I heard her next single, “Team,” that I began to look into Lorde more. From there, I delved into her debut album Pure Heroine, and now I can say that not only is it one of the best debut albums I have ever heard, but it is also one of my favorite albums ever. Pure Heroine was a masterpiece, and listening to it made me realize that I actually understood Lorde quite a bit. The album had excellent social commentary, honesty, and just enough teenage angst( remember, Lorde was 16 when she wrote it), but it was also so smart and mature. In the following years, I always thought “How is Lorde ever going to top this. What will she do next?” She had set the bar so high.

Well, now its 2017, and Lorde is back with her new album Melodrama. I had high hopes for this album. Let’s see what I thought of it in my track by track review.

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1. “Green Light”

“Green Light”, the first single, was a great way for Lorde to kick start her new era. I  liked the song from the start because it’s such a bop. The beginning is a bit slow for me, but soon the groovy piano takes over, and from there “Green Light” shines. As far as lyrics go, I really like the ones in this song. We all know what it’s like to wait for the green light-literally and figuratively.

2. “Sober”

“Sober” is a well produced and performed track. Lorde’s artistry is on full display throughout. The track sounds kind of sinister and frantic. “What will we do when we’re sober?” she asks throughout.

3. “Homemade Dynamite”

Again, I have to praise Lorde’s vocals and the overall production of this track. “Homemade Dynamite” tells the story of a party that got a little too crazy. Perhaps the greatest standout in this track is the flute-sounding riff that repeats throughout. The song gets a little bit repetitive, but overall “Homemade Dynamite” is a solid song.

4. “The Louvre”

I like how atmospheric “The Louvre” is. Lorde’s vocals in this song are some of my favorite of hers on the album. I like the subtle  guitar on  the verses leading up to the chorus. This kind of instrumentation wasn’t seen a lot on Pure Heroine. The lyrics are also stand outs, as they show Lorde’s personality. “They’ll hang us in the Louvre, Down the back, but who cares-still the Louvre” and “Megaphone to my chest , Broadcast the boom boom boom boom and make ’em all dance for it” are two stand out lyrical phrases.

5. “Liability”

“Liability” was the second track released from Melodrama.  It is a sweet little piano ballad, with lyrics that I can relate too as they outline the feeling of being a burden. I initially really liked the track. It even made one of my new music roundups.  However, as I listen to it in the context of the album, it’s kind of a low point for me. It’s a little bit too slow, and there isn’t enough going on . Up until this point, the album has really nice, colorful production, and then everything kind of slows to a stop once it reaches “Liability”. I’m not saying it’s bad by any means, but I wish there were more to it.

6. “Hard Feelings/Loveless”

“Hard Feelings/Loveless” is a weird track (or I guess two tracks) for me. The first track “Hard Feelings” is an atmospheric spilling of emotions. The production is good, and so are the vocals. However, I get kind of bored with it quickly. The second track “Loveless” is my favorite track in this 2-in-1 song. Melodrama is a bit more emotional than Pure Heroine, and I can’t lie, I kind of missed Lorde’s snarky attitude from her debut. “Loveless” gave me this attitude that I craved. Her lyrics are biting and she deems our generation as L-O-V-E-L-E-S-S. The one problem I have with “Loveless” is that there isn’t more of it! I would have preferred Lorde to build on “Loveless” rather than combine it with “Hard Feelings.” That would have been a great song.

7.  “Sober II (Melodrama)

To start off, I want to say that I like the melancholy feel to this song and the strings throughout. However, it is kind of slow, until the beat drops at about a minute in. That is when the song truly reaches its full potential. The fluff at the beginning seems kind of unnecessary.

8. “Writer in the Dark”

I don’t have much to say about “Writer in the Dark.” It definitely isn’t my favorite song on the album, but Lorde’s vocals really shine.

9. “Supercut”

“Supercut” is one of my favorite tracks on the album. It  has such a light feeling. I’m probably getting repetitive by now, but the production and the vocals were pristine-again. My favorite lines are when Lorde repeats “In your car, the radio up.” Not bad for what fans are calling Melodrama’s “Ribs.”

10.” Liability (Reprise)”

This song is best described as a filler. It kind of sounds like “Hard Feelings” because of the chill tempo and atmospheric sound. Overall, while it’s not bad quality, I find it pretty boring.

11. “Perfect Places”

I did not like “Perfect Places” when I first heard it. I though it sounded like generic pop, but after several listens, my opinion has changed. Lorde saved the best song for last. I love the lyrics. “I’m 19 and I’m on fire” and “I can’t stand to be alone” are stand outs for me. I applaud this song for being the only song apart from “Green Light” that is memorable. I find myself humming it and remembering it the best. The other songs are good, but they don’t have quite the same staying power that this ones has. With “Perfect Places” I never have to ask myself “What did that song sound like again?” Lorde is the queen of closers.

 

I applaud Lorde. So many artists breakout with great debuts and then fall victim to sophomore slumps. Lorde had such high expectations to meet, and I think she did a great job with Melodrama. I always knew Lorde would be around for a while, but this release has validated that she is not a one hit  or one album wonder. Melodrama is not imperfect, but I love how it showcases Lorde’s raw talent and uniqueness. Her strangeness is her hallmark, and I think it’s so refreshing.

I couldn’t relate to Melodrama as much as I could relate to Pure Heroine, but I’m not surprised by this-Lorde is now 20 and I am still a teenager. She’s less angsty, and she’s experienced more life. With that being said, Pure Heroine will always hold a special place in my heart, but I’m happy to make room for Melodrama.

My rating: 7/10

Couturely Sound ❤

A Growing Issue In Reality TV

Reality TV is terribly flawed. Whether it’s the manufactured plot lines, the scripted dialog, or the lack of overall merit, reality TV is a form of cheap entertainment that continues to make big money.

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I would be lying if I said I never watched reality TV. I get bored sometimes, and the antics of some of the individuals on these shows are laughable, even if they are completely fake.

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One form of reality TV that I thoroughly enjoy are those that are in a competition format. These are the American Idol and Survivor type shows. For a while I thought, “Wow, networks have finally delivered reality TV with some truth and merit.” I was wrong. While these type of programs are generally less scripted, they are still, for lack of a better word, rigged. Sob stories are to thank for this issue.

The dreaded sob story. We all know when they are coming. Sad music might begin, the contestant in question gets silent when they are asked what inspires them or something along those lines, and then suddenly the tears begin to fall as the person in question delves into a story about how life has smacked them in the face. I’m sick of sob stories. I think this clip just about sums up how I feel about them.

 

Maybe that clip made you laugh, maybe it didn’t. Maybe I sound like an insensitive jerk, but I’ll plead my case.

In recent years, I’ve noticed a pattern. Reality TV judges tend to pick winners who either have the best journey or the best sob story over actual talent or skill. If these contestants don’t win the show, they usually still get pretty far because of how “moving” or “inspiring” they are. This method would work if the show was called America’s Best Sob Story and not America’s Got Talent. In some cases the person with the most talent and best sob story are successful, but I think that’s pretty rare. In most cases the person who wins is about 75% sob story and 25% unbelievable talent.

On Season 14 of Project Runway, Ashley Nell Tipton had struggled with self-image issues and bullying for her entire life. A talented designer, she was one of four contestants to make it to New York Fashion Week. Tipton was inspired by her own background, so she designed a plus size collection. I appreciated her ambition; the fashion world simply does not cater to the plus size demographic and it’s unfair. However, from a fashion stand point alone, not a social one, her collection was relatively pedestrian and borderline cheesy. I mean she glued details on to some of the dresses she made. That isn’t high fashion by any stretch of the imagination. The judges loved her collection, and she went on to win the show. Their decision was, as usual, inconsistent with public opinion. There is no doubt in my mind that Project Runway wanted to appear socially conscious, so they picked Tipton over three better executed final collections. Tipton was a great designer, but not good enough to win it all. In this case, the journey and emotions had won instead of actual skill.

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These were a few of  Tipton’s designs.

 

In the 2015 season of MasterChef, much of the same happened. Derrick was a front runner for the entire season. He was a young guy who cooked for recreation and wanted to go somewhere with it. Claudia also loved to cook, but she came in hot with the sob story. She was a single mom who needed to win the $250,000 to support herself and daughter. When the finale rolled around, Derrick was clearly the better cook. Of course, I could only see the food, but the way the judges responded to each contestant’s dishes proved to me that they favored Derrick. Derek was experimental, Claudia played it safe. Of course Claudia mentioned just how much she needed to win frequently, and the judges fell for it. I was utterly shocked when they crowned her as MasterChef. I’m thinking the producers didn’t want to seem like jerks for not letting a single mom win. ( I am in no way discrediting single moms either, it is just that MasterChef is a cooking competition) Again, Claudia was a great cook, but her sob story gave her way too much leverage.

 

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NBC has a new show out called World of Dance. There was one contestant who delivered a great performance. When the judges asked him what the inspiration behind his dance was, he referenced his parents’ divorce and then proceeded to burst into tears. I think the guy would have gone through regardless of his story, but it most definitely inflated his scores, and made the judges go soft.

My parents are divorced, and divorce definitely takes a toll on families, but one things for sure: my parents’ divorce won’t increase my chances of getting into a college. Why should it then, increase someone’s chances of winning a competition?

Which brings me to my next point. A sob story is not worth a million dollars or some other multitude of money. Heck, if it was, we’d all be a million dollars richer. We’ve all have some sort of sob story because life is not kind to anyone. Let’s be real. I’m not discrediting some of the life experiences that people have gone through. I get it-life is hard.  However, we do not all have million dollar talent, and that is what these shows are supposed to be measuring.

The use of  sob stories is pretty manipulative to be honest. If an act, designer, or cook can’t fully intrigue judges with their skills, they whip out all of the tears and dramatics.

If I didn’t already scare you away with my cynicism, here is some more. I’m not sure how credible some of these stories are in the first place.

In case you’ve never seen this Spongebob episode, it is later revealed that the guy with the “glass bones” is a total scam. In a world of deception across the board, who can we really trust? I’m sure most people wouldn’t lie about their circumstances, because some are truly horrible and tear-inducing, but I’m also sure quite a few would. It’s all food for thought I guess.

It just drives me crazy that anyone should get farther in life due to anything that isn’t based off of merit or hard work. But now that I think of it, that’s all reality TV is isn’t it? It definitely required a lot of blood sweat and tears for the Kardashians to get where they are right? Definitely.

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Couturely Sound ❤

 

Why Stylish is Better Than Trendy

I am completely immersed in media on a daily basis. Whether it’s through magazines, social networks, TV, music, or film, the media penetrates my mind.

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The fashion world uses the media as its vehicle for communicating all of the latest trends. While I understand that trends are fun, fresh, and time markers in a sense, I have never been one to keep up with them. Am I aware of trends? Yes, but I am not in the pursuit of them, unless I happen to really like a particular one.

It might sound strange that I am not fond of trends, so it’s probably best that I explain why.

1. Trends are not timeless

Remember how I said that trends are “time markers?” Well, this phrase is basically another way of saying dated. Trends come and go, and they are often something we laugh at ten years down the road. One year a certain top might be a hot commodity, and the next year, maybe even month, it will be considered trash. Despite this, I will admit that it is fun to look back on old trends. Sometimes the clothes we wear remind us of the past that we wish to remember.

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2. Trends create a homogenized society

I realize that fashion is a business, and if a new trend comes out, everyone will want it. That is where the money is made, but fashion is also about self expression. If everyone is wearing the same style of top, where is the identity? How does anyone stand out? An added benefit?  Having a sense of style makes you less vulnerable to dreaded “Who wore it better?” comparisons.

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3. Trends push people to spend money and keep up with the Joneses

Everyone wants to fit in or gain acceptance in some way or another. Trends provide another avenue for people to feel like they don’t fit in or can’t keep up with their peers. Clothes cost money, and as much as I love them, I don’t think it’s worth it to blow money in order to keep up with everybody else.

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I would rather be referred to as stylish, and here’s why.

1. Having a sense of style transcends time

I’m a big fan of fashion from the early 2000s. It was very quirky and fun. I would like to believe that a stylish person could construct an outfit based around that time, and still make it look good. Being stylish means that a person could be put into any era or any place, and still look fabulous.

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2. Being stylish means you can work with anything and save money

Many college students are essentially broke, and they learn to love Ramen noodles. In addition, the clothes a college student chooses to bring with them may not encompass their entire wardrobe. So, college students probably can’t keep up with trends, and they really have to work with what they have. A stylish person would still manage to look sophisticated and cool even if they lived out of a suitcase, and all they had to wear were trash bags. A “trendy” person might come down with a case of “I have nothing to wear” syndrome.

3. Being stylish allows people to have an identity 

Maybe you’re like me, and you really enjoy clothing from past eras. Having a sense of style would allow you to delve into your retro tastes and true fashion identity without looking out of date or becoming a laughing stock. Having a personal style also allows for people to stand out and resist being defined by the day’s trends.

 

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Trends aren’t necessarily bad. Over the years, I’ve adopted a few. Boyfriend jeans might be considered trendy, and I wear them quite frequently.

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I just wanted to take away the perceived importance of being trendy. It makes me sad that people feel lesser because they can’t keep up with their peers or can’t look like everyone else. To those of you who feel this way, I want to say that it is better to stand out, and you can work with what you have and still look good. Own your style and develop it! Trends are always departing, but your style will remain constant.

The great Coco Chanel once said, “Fashion changes, but style endures.”

I couldn’t have said it better myself.

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