My Thoughts on the 2018 Grammy Nominations

About a week  or two ago, the nominees for the 2018 Grammy Awards were revealed to the public. In recent years, I have been pretty disappointed with both the nominees for the Grammy’s and the results. The Recording Academy seemed to pander too much to what was popular and commercial rather than what was actually good quality music. Upon seeing the nominations for some of the major categories this year, I was pretty pleased. For the first time in a while, I thought the Grammy’s got it right. I’m not sure if I should attribute this fact to them actually making good choices or the quality of music just being all around better in 2017.  I thought I would share my thoughts on the nominees and say who I think should take home the award in each category. Let’s start with Record of the Year.

Record of the Year

“Redbone” — Childish Gambino
“Despacito (Remix)” — Luis Fonsi & Daddy Yankee feat. Justin Bieber
“The Story of O.J.” — JAY-Z
“HUMBLE.” — Kendrick Lamar
“24K Magic” — Bruno Mars

Overall, I think this is a pretty good group of tracks for Record of the Year. The only track that I’m unfamiliar with is Jay Z’s “The Story of O.J.,” but other than that, I know the other nominees pretty well. Record of the Year is based off of a song’s sound and production quality. “Redbone” is a groovy track that anyone could vibe too. “24k Magic” is another groovy tune with funky throwback sounds. “HUMBLE” is a west coast hip-hop banger. Although I think other tracks should have taken “Despacito’s” place among the other nominees, the track has clear, crisp guitars with a signature Latin flare. If I had to pick a winner for this category, I’d have to give it to “Redbone.” The bass line and the funky guitar riff weaved throughout the track are so infectious, the production is pristine, and as I said earlier, anyone could vibe to it.

 

Album of the Year

“Awaken, My Love!” — Childish Gambino
4:44 — JAY-Z
DAMN. — Kendrick Lamar
Melodrama — Lorde
24K Magic — Bruno Mars

I can’t say too much about this category because I have only listened to Melodrama and DAMN. all the way through. DAMN. is brilliant plain and simple. It is Kendrick’s Lamar’s most listenable/radio-friendly album, but it is still socially conscious. “HUMBLE,” “DNA,” “ELEMENT,” “LOYALTY,” and “LOVE” are all standout tracks. Kendrick Lamar is the real deal. Melodrama is also an amazing album from its lyrics to the production. I’m a huge Lorde fan. Her debut  Pure Heroine is one of my favorite albums of all time. While I did not like Melodrama as much as its predecessor, it was still enjoyable. “Homemade Dynamite,” “Supercut,” “Hard Feelings/Loveless,” and “Perfect Places” are gems. Out of all of the albums nominated, I could relate to Melodrama  the most. I’ve heard a lot of the singles from 24k Magic, and while I don’t think the tracks are bad, I’m not a huge fan of throwback music. It’s not that it sounds bad, I just think it sounds unoriginal. I heard that 4:44 and “Awaken, My Love!” were amazing, but I don’t have an opinion on them since I haven’t listened to them yet. This was a really tough category for me to pick a winner for because Melodrama and DAMN. are both so great, but I think I’d have to give it to DAMN. because it’s more impactful. Not many people can make conscious music that also sounds good, and Kendrick mastered that.

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Song of the Year

“Despacito”-Luis Fonsi ft. Daddy Yankee and Justin Bieber

“4:44” -Jay Z

“Issues” -Julia Michaels

“1-800-273-8255” Logic ft. Khalid and Alessia Cara

“That’s What I Like”-Bruno Mars

Song of the Year is all about a track’s lyrical content, and I must say these are weak nominees. There were so many tracks with better lyricism than what we have here. I love the Spanish language, but if “Despacito” is translated into English, it isn’t saying much. It is just another pop song. I haven’t heard “4:44,” so I can’t really comment. “Issues” is an annoying song in terms of sound, but lyrically it doesn’t do much for me either. “1-800-273-8255” is a socially conscious song that sounds good, so I’m a fan. “That’s What I Like” isn’t really saying anything at all, so I don’t know why it was nominated for this category. The final verdict? “1-800” should take home the award.

 

Best New Artist

Lil Uzi Vert

Khalid

Julia Michaels

Alessia Cara

SZA

I think this is a good group of nominess for Best New Artist. Lil Uzi Vert is changing the hip hop culture, and I love “XO TOURLIFE.” When I saw Coldplay a year ago, Alessia Cara opened for them, and I thought she was very talented. I do think some of her songs are generic, but she has beautiful voice and I hope she sticks around. I’m not a fan of Julia Michaels. SZA is a generational talent. “Love Galore” and “Supermodel” are textbook R&B tracks. Khalid is something special. The youth really identify with him, he’s unique, and he’s versatile. I love “Young Dumb and Broke,” “Location,” and all of the other songs he’s featured on. To me, Khalid is the most promising artist, and in some cases the most memorable out of this group. I think he should win.

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Best Pop Duo/Group Performance

“Something Just Like This”-   The Chainsmokers & Coldplay

 “Despacito” Luis Fonsi & Daddy Yankee Featuring Justin Bieber

Thunder”-  Imagine Dragons

Feel It Still”-Portugal. The Man

” Stay”-  Zedd & Alessia Cara

I’m a total Coldplay homer, but I wasn’t the biggest fan of their collaboration with The Chainsmokers. I will give “Despacito” its props for being such a musical juggernaut, but it’s not the best song-it’s just generic. I actually liked “Thunder” even though there is not much to the track at all. “Feel It Still” is a jazzy little song that I enjoyed on many a car ride. “Stay” is  a nice upbeat track, but it doesn’t break new ground, and it got a bit annoying. I’d give the Grammy to “Feel It Still.”

 

Best R&B Performance

Get You”-  Daniel Caesar Featuring Kali Uchis

Distraction”  -Kehlani

” High”-Ledisi

” That’s What I Like”- Bruno Mars

The Weekend”-  SZA

“That’s What I Like” is more of a pop song to me, so I don’t really know why it’s here. The other tracks I either haven’t heard or I’m indifferent towards. I think SZA should win. She has the most soul and the most personality.

 

Best Rap Performance

“Bounce Back” -Big Sean

” Bodak Yellow”-Cardi B

 “4:44”-  JAY-Z

” HUMBLE.”-Kendrick Lamar

“Bad And Boujee” Migos Featuring Lil Uzi Vert

I like “Bounce Back,” even though it’s not saying much. The track is one of Big Sean’s best. “Bodak Yellow” is trash. I haven’t heard “4:44.” “Bad and Boujee” was great for memes and the internet, and it is catchy, but it’s not a high quality rap song. I’m sorry. That leaves “HUMBLE.” as the clear winner of this category. It’s a banger that says something. This category overall is pretty weak. There were way better rap tracks that could’ve been here.

 

Best Pop Solo Performance

Love So Soft”-Kelly Clarkson

Praying”-Kesha

Million Reasons”- Lady Gaga

What About Us”- P!nk

 “Shape Of You”- Ed Sheeran

I find “Shape of You” to be almost insufferable, which is crazy considering I initially enjoyed it. It is one of the most generic songs that Sheeran has put out. I think “Love So Soft” is a solid effort by Kelly Clarkson. It’s definitely soulful. “Praying” was a slowburner for me, but now I love it. I love that Kesha’s growth and maturity is on display, and it culminated in  a very soulful and emotive performance. “Million Reasons” is a great track by Lady Gaga,while P!nk’s “What About Us” is kind of blah to me. I mean does it not sound like everything else she has put out before? I’d give this one to Kesha. She has come quite  a long way since her “Tick Tock” days.

 

Well, those are my thoughts on some of the 2018 Grammy nominees. Overall, I think the collection of artists nominated is pretty strong. It will be interesting to see who takes home the awards next month.

Thanks for reading,

Couturely Sound ❤

 

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Clad in Plaid

Well, fall is coming to a close. The cold air that I was met with this morning only confirmed this fact. Thanksgiving has come and gone, and almost everyone on my street has all of their Christmas lights up. Winter is coming.

One of my favorite patterns to wear during the fall is plaid. It’s such a classic print and it has a scholastic feel to it. This year, however, I found that I hadn’t worn a lot of plaid. I wanted to make sure some of my fall apparel didn’t go unworn, so I took it upon myself to work some plaid into my ensembles before November is out.

Below are three plaid looks that I’ve worn in the past few days.

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I worked all of Thanksgiving weekend. To say I was tired by Sunday night would be an understatement. This picture was taken on Sunday before I went in to work. I based my outfit around my red plaid vest, and went on from there. Considering  part of my uniform is to wear red, this choice was perfect.  It was a bit chilly, so I paired my top with a gray sweater. The sweater really brought out the accents in my vest. To round out the look I opted for classic blue jeans and black leather booties. I was happy with the look, although I wish I had worn different shoes. My feet were killing me after my shift!

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On Monday, I settled for a hint of plaid . The weather was supposed to be north of 60 degrees, so I dressed accordingly. I wore my red tee with denim skinny jeans and my Sperrys. To add some flare to my outfit I put on my plaid scarf. It complimented the red very nicely and had some gold highlights that went with my shoes. The Monday after a break is never easy, but I was happy the sun was shining, even though the air wasn’t quite warm enough to my liking.

imageToday was freezing, so I brought out the turtleneck and the layers. My mom gave me this turtleneck tunic/dress last year and it has become a cold weather staple for me. However, the dress is short sleeved, so I had to put on my flannel. The flannel kept me warmer and added some much needed color to the outfit. I finished the outfit with some black leggings and camel-colored boots. At school during the cold months, I often cover up my outfit with a coat because even in the building I feel a chill. Today was no exception. Luckily for me, my coat actually complemented the rest of my outfit. Plaid is a fun print to work with, so it was cool experimenting with it for the last couple of days.

Although this fall has been crazy and stressful at points, it has also been fun and full of achievement.  I’m not ready for the long winter ahead, but I’m ready for Christmas, so that is something to look forward to. It’s so fun to dress for the holidays, look at all of the lights, and spend time with family, so I’m very excited.

I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving and is making it through this week unscathed!

Couturely Sound ❤

 

Black Friday(Thursday) and America’s Greed

I’m thankful for a lot of things. My family, my friends, God, and the resources at my dispense are some to name a few. I’m also thankful that I have a job( with the exception of yesterday haha). I decided to get a job for experience, but it was primarily for money. One could say I don’t truly need a job, as my parents provide me with the necessities and more. One could say I was being greedy,kind of like how people are on Black Friday-I mean Thursday, Black Thursday.

I’m thankful I got to eat a short Thanksgiving dinner with my family before heading out into the trenches and endless messes of consumer America. Some people I work with didn’t even get that, voicing to me that they would be eating alone that night.

I understand the importance Black Friday holds for retailers. It’s everything to them. When companies think of Black Friday, they see money bags. As time has progressed however, money bags on Friday just hasn’t been enough. They just had to make even more money on Thursday, Thanksgiving Day, a day that should be designated for family and giving thanks. Being open for Thanksgiving Day, negates everything that the holiday should be. Instead of taking one day to say thank you, thank you, thank you, companies are saying more,more,more and consume, consume, consume. It’s maddening. What’s most sad, is that the people calling all of the shots at the top, are most likely spending Thanksgiving the way it’s supposed to be spent, while their workers slave away for long hours.

The people are not blameless. They are actually a major part of the problem. Without their zeal and fervor to spend money on stuff that they don’t need, (at late hours of the night)perhaps their would be no reason to open up doors on Thanskgiving Day. As I pulled into work yesterday, I was shocked to see the parking lot completely full. When I actually made it inside of the store people were everywhere, clogging the aisles, like food clogs arteries. I wondered why they were out shopping instead of having dinner with their families. Or maybe they inhaled their plates fast, so that they could exhale all of the money from their bank accounts sooner. It made no sense to me. Business is good, but I also prayed to myself that they would all go home where they should be.I got a lot of pity from customers. ” You poor thing,” they would say,” I’m sorry you have to work Thanksgiving.” They meant well, but their apology seemed a little disingenuous considering they were the reason I was working at all. Their money talks, and the corporations heard. As I left work late last night, the store was still full…

America is so greedy in a lot of ways. How many TVs or pairs of boots can one own before they are satisfied? Apparently not enough. In a year, or maybe even less, the stuff that people purchase will hold little to no value to them. Family on the other hand, is what is truly fulfilling.

Let’s stop being greedy. Let’s take one day to stop and reflect, and then we can go crazy on Black Friday every year. “Black Thursday” doesn’t even have the same ring to it…

Always be thankful, and be kind to retail workers this holiday season.

Couturely Sound ❤

 

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It was so nice to wake up this morning knowing that I wouldn’t be back at school for another week. School can be stressful and tiring, so this break was much needed and well deserved.

Now that Thanksgiving break is here, it is finally starting to feel like the holiday season. No matter how old I get, I still feel excitement for this time of year, although the non stop Christmas music playing at my job is becoming slightly annoying…

The holidays season is an exciting time. Somehow the atmosphere seems warmer, and I love all of the food, festivities, and family.

When I got dressed today, some of my Christmas excitement poured into my choice of apparel.

I based my outfit around my striped, red sweater.

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To add layers to my look, I decided to pair denim shorts and black leggings together. The shorts were my tribute to warm weather, as I’m a warm weather girl at heart, and the leggings allowed me to keep warm, although the weather wasn’t extremely chilly today.

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I finished my outfit off with my tan booties and my black scarf. The booties offset the darker colors in the look.

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When I was a little kid, I was very tall for my age and I was extremely extroverted and bubbly. My family always said that I should be a model when I grew up, and at the time, I thought so too. As it turns out, I was simply an early bloomer. Today, I stand at an average height. My personality has also changed significantly, so one could say that I definitely don’t want to be a model someday.

I actually really dislike taking pictures. Being behind a camera brings me a certain level of discomfort. Getting my senior pictures done this summer was a nightmare for me.  One might wonder why I have a blog if I don’t like taking pictures, and my answer to that would be is that I do it for the fashion.

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I feel awkward behind a camera, and it shows. Today when my mom was taking these photos, she had to remind me to relax. Oh, how I wish I could.

In today’s world, the photo is king. A picture can be worth a million bucks. Due to social media among other mediums, we make a lot of judgements based off of pictures. People strive to perfect their Instagram feeds, or strive to post the perfect selfie, and I think it’s kind of exhausting to keep up with all of that. Pictures can be deceiving.  A lot of people feign happiness just by turning up the corners of their mouth with a smile. These instant snapshots don’t tell the whole story. I would hope that no one judged me off of my photos because sometimes they depict me as an awkward individual, and( most of the time) this simply isn’t true. That bubbly six year old still exists in me somewhere deep down…

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Someday I’d like to pursue journalism. When I tell people this, they always ask if I’d ever take the broadcast journalism path, and I always tell them no. Print journalism will do for me. I’m just a little camera shy.

Have a Happy Thanksgiving!

Couturely Sound ❤

Staying Positive

One of singer-songwriter John Mayer’s best songs is “Gravity.” The guitar playing on the track is a testament to Mayer’s virtuoso-level talent, but the lyrics are great in their own right. In one line he belts out, “Gravity is working against me,” and as I heard that line the other day, I thought about how much I could relate…

Sometimes I feel like gravity is working against me, as if the world is planning my take down. It sounds dramatic, I know, but it’s what I really feel.

Juggling school, homework, work, friendships, a social life, and all of the little things that pop up in daily life can be hard and mentally taxing. Some days I feel like everything that could go wrong goes wrong.

The world is a strange and crazy place. It always has been, but these days we hear about just how wack it is much, much more. Hearing about natural disasters,  mass shootings, and unending political conflict on a daily basis can really take a toll. It makes me wonder if there is any hope.

When the world feels as if it’s imploding on itself or on you, it is hard to stay positive, but there are ways to make achieving positivity a little easier.

Today was a typical Monday. School bored me to tears as usual, and I was dreading the stack of homework that I would have to complete upon returning home, among other things. I don’t like to feel negative. The feeling quite literally makes one feel sick and tired, so I decided to take action and make myself feel better.

With that being said, I present to you(and to myself) a guide to staying positive. I’m not saying these methods will fix your problems, but they should make you feel better. I know they make me do.

 

Exercise/Running

After my cross-country season ended about a month ago, I was sure that I wouldn’t run again for a long time. I had run for four months straight at a high intensity, so I was really burnt out. However, when I’m not being forced to run, and I can go at my own set pace, I actually enjoy the activity. Running not only has great rewards and health benefits, but it also makes me feel better.Today I went for a run, and it was very refreshing. Running or any exercise for that matter helps relieve stress, so if you ever feel overwhelmed, go to the gym or tie up your sneakers for a quick run so that you can release all of the negative energy.

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Listening to Music

Music is food for the soul and I believe that it has the power to uplift moods, lend perspective, and provide an escape. Music also gives us something to relate to. Sometimes when you’re sad, it’s good to listen to sad music so that you can weather the storm. On other occasions, it’s good to listen to happy and upbeat music so that it can raise your spirits and lift the clouds.

Below is my feel-good music playlist from my Spotify account. Along with some of my other playlists, it always seems to do the trick.

 

 

Coloring/Creating Art

My friend and I were at a coffee shop this weekend, and  while we were there, we saw a big group of older women congregated around a table coloring in adult coloring books. This sight made me think about  how coloring has proven to be a great stress reliever. I have found in my life that creating any type of artwork is very therapeutic. Channel your bad energy into something creative.

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Do Something You Love

Do things that make you happy and you’ll become happy. Updating my blog makes me happy, and I can finally feel the Monday blues subsiding. Monday Night Football also comes on soon so that should alleviate more of my worries.

 

Smile More

It has been scientifically proven that the physical act of smiling( even if you’re unhappy) releases endorphins that make you feel better. Even when everything is falling apart, tell yourself that you will stay positive.

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Make Yourself Laugh

Go on YouTube and watch silly videos or watch your favorite show that makes you laugh until your ribs get tired. It will make you feel better.

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Do Things for Other People

When I know that I’m the reason someone is smiling or I’ve improved someone’s day, it makes me feel good. Pay it forward, increase faith in humanity, and always be kind. It’s the holiday season, so it’s the perfect time to serve others.

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Take a Mental Health Day

Sometimes you just have to take a day for yourself. In the future when you have peace of mind, you’ll be thankful that you did.

 

Think About Positive Things in Your Life/What You’re Grateful For

We often dwell too much on the negative, pushing all of the positive to the back burner. The news and the media does this too, so it must be a human thing to think about darkness rather than light, but overcome your tendencies. Think about what you’re thankful for. Make a list. I’m thankful to be alive and healthy. The sun was shining today, and I have a roof over my head. Also, the Pats won yesterday, so I’m pretty thankful for that.

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Spend Time With Your Friends/Family

The relationships we maintain with other people are so crucial. Human interaction is good. If you are alone too much, you’re thoughts will drive you crazy. It’s great to talk to your friends or family about what you’re going through, and having fun with them can help get your mind off of whatever it is that troubles you. Last week was rough for me, so it was great to go out with a friend on Friday night and let loose for a couple of hours. Friendship is magic.

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Crying

Sometimes you just have to cry all of your negative emotions out. You’ll feel better when you do.

 

Get Off of Social Media For A Little While

Social Media can be somewhat toxic. It is a hub for comparison and false realities, as well as a news source that outlines all that is wrong with the world. Sometimes it’s good to unplug for at least a couple of hours so that you aren’t drowning in negativity or stimuli that might trigger negativity.

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Life is too short to be negative. Being positive is no easy feat, but it can definitely be achieved.  So, whenever you’re feeling down or hating the world, think about what you can do to fix it. Go ride your bike or listen to your favorite song. Have hope. Let’s get positive together.

 

Couturely Sound ❤

New Music Round-Up 11/3/17

Well my friends, we have finally made it to Friday. After a long week, I feel like this is an appropriate time to share some new music. Below are seven songs that I’m enjoying at the moment. Let’s party.

1. “The Way Life Goes”-Lil Uzi Vert

Lil Uzi is back at again with the bangers. “The Way Life Goes” is no “XO TOURLIFE,” but it’s still a solid effort from the Philadelphia rapper. Like “XO TOURLIFE,”  “The Way Life Goes” is a fusion of different genres. It has trap influences, pop influences, hip hop influences, and it has an alternative vibe to it, especially through the lyrical content. Life is hard. I think we all know that. On this track, Lil Uzi assures listeners that we’ll get through life, as nothing lasts forever, not even hardship. The lyrical content  paired with a catchy trap beat makes this song a 10/10.

2. “Bad at Love”-Halsey

 

Never in a million years did I think I’d like a Halsey song, but “Bad at Love” is too great to ignore. Halsey delivers a surprisingly soulful performance. As she belts “I’m bad at love” in the chorus, I’m convinced as a listener. For once, she isn’t pandering to the hipster crowd( although she might think differently), and the result is a well crafted pop song.

3. “Good Old Days”-Macklemore feat Kesha

Everyone remembers when Macklemore took over in 2013 after “Thrift Shop” took off. The guy was inescapable. In recent years however, he has maintained a lower profile, and I hadn’t heard much from him in the realm of radio. This track seems to be the beginning of a new era for the Seattle rapper. The featured artist on this track, Kesha, also seems to be starting  a new era of her own. The track is feel-good through and through. The subject matter is not too deep, there are nice melodies, and there is a sense of nostalgia. Kesha delivers a solid vocal performance, and Macklemore contributes greatly to the sentimental feel of the song.

4. “Sky Walker”-Miguel feat. Travis Scott

When I first heard this song, it immediately caught my attention. It’s super catchy and it has a nice beat. I think what I like most about this song is Miguel’s vocal performance because of its personality and swagger. I think “Sky Walker” is  a fun song. The word play really takes the cake.

5. “LOVE” Kendrick Lamar feat Zacari

“LOVE” is probably my favorite song on this round up. I’ve had it on repeat for days. Not only is “LOVE” a jam, but it’s also really sensitive. I didn’t know that Kendrick Lamar was capable of making me “feel all the feels,” but he did. Kendrick doesn’t do it alone. By enlisting the help of Zacari, who is an exceptional vocalist, and employing nice, atmospheric production, Kendrick creates a  well-rounded song. What makes this track so sensitive is its lyrical content. Kendrick asks of his lover, “If I didn’t ride blade on curb (drive expensive foreign cars) would you still love me?” There’s no question that Kendrick has made it, so he has to wonder if his significant other’s love is unconditional. Is she there for him or for the money? I love this song.

6. “Supermodel”-SZA

SZA continues to deliver. The song opens with SZA showcasing her melodic voice over subtle guitars. “Supermodel” has an organic sound which makes it especially soulful. The song reaches a climax at the end as more instruments, particularly percussion, begin to come to center stage. Much like SZA’s track “The Weekend,” I don’t agree with the song’s subject matter, but the track is so sonically pleasing, and this girl can really sing.

7. “Too Much to Ask”-Niall Horan

Niall Horan on my new music round up? I can’t believe it either. I knew I had to add this song to this list when I started singing it one day in the car without even thinking about it. Niall is doing pretty well as a solo artist. I would say he’s had one of the better solo debuts among his former 1D band mates. While “Too Much to Ask” is pretty generic, I can’t help but like it. It’s emotive and it has a nice, soaring chorus.

Well, that’s all for this roundup.

Have a great weekend!

Couturely Sound ❤

Celebrities AREN’T Role Models

When I was a little kid, I was the biggest Hannah Montana/Miley Cyrus fan there was. I had every album, posters were plastered across my room, and I had every bit of merch you could imagine. There are still remnants of my Hannah Montana days in the form of a blanket and a lamp.

As a Disney Channel star, Cyrus made sure to maintain a squeaky clean image, and she gave the public the impression that her life was based off of wholesome, Christian values.

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Circa 2009, Cyrus’s image began to change. A controversial performance  of “Party in the USA” at the Teen Choice awards that summer featured Cyrus in daisy dukes dancing around a pole. She was 17, and the public had no idea that the worst was yet to come for the child star .  In the days following her risque performance, I began to hear a lot of whispers from parents. Statements along the lines of “Oh my gosh! What a horrible role model!” and “Wow, she is setting such a bad example for our kids!” were repeated frequently.

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When Miley Cyrus began to make her change, I was just as perplexed as all of the parents. There I was, 9/10 years old, and my favorite singer who initially sang  about “true friends” and “the best of both worlds” was now pole dancing and telling the world that she “could not be tamed.”

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When 2012 rolled around, Miley went full on “adult” mode. She got  a new haircut, she sported several new tattoos, and she was  a friend to foul language. Then, 2013 rolled around. First, “We Can’t Stop” happened. Then, her infamous VMA performance broke the internet. And finally,  the video for “Wrecking Ball” dropped jaws and became etched into our memories forever. By 2013, I was shocked and maybe a little disappointed by Cyrus’s actions, but I wasn’t wounded. I had moved out of my Hannah Montana phase, and by then, I had become desensitized to her crazy antics.

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Following her wild 2013, there was still talk about how Cyrus was a bad role model for kids, and all I have to say to that is that she was never a role model. I’m not saying she was never a role model because of her behavior. I’m saying she was/is not a role model because that is not what she signed up for.

Celebrities aren’t role models. None of them.

At some point in time, our society equated being famous to suddenly being a figure that shows the world how they should live their lives. I think that is ridiculous.

We get so emotionally attached to celebrities when in reality they only provide us with a product and that’s it. Entertainment, music, books, comedy-they are all products. Outside of making music, Justin Bieber should not have any other role in a person’s life because he has already done his job of providing the public with entertainment. The same goes for athletes. They are not paid to be upstanding citizens. They are paid to play football, basketball, etc.

Furthermore, I know Miley Cyrus or Justin Bieber about as well as I know the person giving me food at a Chick-fil-A drive thru, but I don’t look to my food server to show me how I should live my life. They give me my product and I move on with my day.

I understand that celebrities have a wide sphere of influence. Little boys want to be just like Steph Curry, or teen girls dream of looking like Taylor Swift. Beyonce is worshiped for crying out loud. I get it. Celebrities have impact, but would they have so much impact if we didn’t expect them to be role models?

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There’s a reason why so many ex-Disney stars resent the network that made them famous ; they were expected to be role models because they catered to kids. A few years ago, Joe Jonas completely bashed the Disney network, and while he did come off as ungrateful (I mean Disney gave he and his brothers a platform, propelling them to international fame…), I did understand to an extent why he was angry. The network puts too much pressure on their stars.

 

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Rihanna, the good girl gone bad, was never expected to be a role model. She made it known early on that she is an adult entertainer. The same goes for Eminem or Kendrick Lamar. They were never considered role models either.  It’s all about the kids. If you never cater to kids, you never have to be a role model, but I still think the pressure on those celebrities that  do cater to the youth is unfair. After all, so many people on Disney  and other children’s networks aren’t actually teenagers, so why should we expect  twenty-somethings to act squeaky clean as if they aren’t adults?

Role models should be people that are actually in your life. Parents, friends, teachers, siblings coaches, mentors-those are all people that should truly be role models. It’s crazy that parents expect Miley Cyrus to be a role model for their kids when they should be  a role model for their kids, and if they don’t like what a celebrity is all about, then they should remove their child’s access to that individual. My parents did that a lot in my youth. It wasn’t fun, but now I know not to blindly follow celebrities.

I look towards the people in my life to set examples for me, and I let celebrities inspire me and nothing more. For example, I’m a big fan of Lorde. I love her music, and I can really relate to it, but she parties a lot, and she has different views than I do on certain issues. I’m not a fan of partying and I don’t always agree with her opinions, but I love Lorde’s product aka her music. I’m not looking for Lorde to teach me how to live, and I don’t think anyone should put that much pressure on a person.

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Over the years, it has become more and more clear to me that people mess up! They are always going to mess up, they are always going to be brought back down to earth from their pedestal that we put them on, and they will disappoint us in some way. No human is perfect, so why should we expect celebrities to be? Especially teenage ones. If normal teenagers struggle with identity crisis, sex, and drug abuse, why wouldn’t a celebrity?

I’m not expected to be a role model, although I try my best to be of good moral standing, but if that role were assigned to me, I would probably feel the pressure. I could virtually never mess up, never fail a test, never procrastinate, and never make any mistakes. That’s way too much to put on a person. Thank God I’m not famous.

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