Writing has always been therapeutic for me, and this blog is kind of like a diary of sorts, so, welcome to my venting session…
I’ve always wanted to stand out, but I’ve never wanted to be a spectacle. Unfortunately, my hair hinders me from avoiding the attention that I try to escape.
My hair is big, extremely curly, and extremely hard to miss. My friends and peers can always spot me out in a crowd. “It’s the hair,” they always say.
It took me a while to come to terms with my natural texture, and to this day, my hair still presents challenges. Prior to my freshman year of high school, I often wore my hair straight. It was easier that way, and I looked like everyone else. There were no questions about my hair, or curious looks, or strange comments.
I can’t tell you how many times my hair has been described as “fun.” I’m not really sure what that means. It’s like calling someone “exotic.” Animals, far away places, and plants are exotic-not people. Hair can’t be “fun.” I don’t think that’s possible.
The other day, a girl stared at my hair intently before asking me how long it took me to curl it, as if I have a miniature curling iron that is able to produce thousands of curls. I can’t make this stuff up.
I can’t expect people to understand my hair texture when it’s something they have never come in contact with, but I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t frustrating when people observe it like a science project, or ask me really strange questions about it. As I said earlier, I don’t like to be a spectacle, and I definitely don’t like being constantly made aware of the fact that I’m different because I already know this.
Curly hair has a history of having a bad rep. We live in a world where straight hair reigns supreme. I read a few articles online that described situations where curly-haired women in the corporate world felt pressured to straighten their hair because their peers deemed their natural locks as “childish” and “unprofessional.” The situations in the articles were maddening to me because how can one be penalized for the hair that grows naturally out of their head? In the future, will I have to spend hours straightening my hair each week just to hold a job or gain respect from my contemporaries?I hope not.
Over the years, the curly hair community has grown so much, and I think it’s great. I like to see people being who they really are, and I prefer to be who I really am. It’s much less exhausting. I do like to straighten my hair occasionally because I like a change every now and then, but when I do, I don’t feel like myself. I straightened my hair for prom this year, and while it was nice, I couldn’t wait to go back to my curls.
Straight hair, wavy hair, curly hair, and everything in between is beautiful. Rather than holding one hair type in the highest regard, we should embrace them all.
The reception towards my hair isn’t all negative. A lot of it is actually really positive, but sometimes the strange comments and ignorant questions do bother me. Sometimes they are even hurtful.
I hope to one day live in a world where people are more educated about individuals that are different than they are. Maybe this will never happen, but even if it doesn’t, I’m still going to love and embrace my hair, despite its flaws.
I’m proud to be a curly girl. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Thanks for letting me vent,
Couturely Sound ❤